Once thing I didn't understand years ago and for a while even today up until a few months ago, I didn't know why in some shows and movies, the father character didn't let his daughter date or even let her pursue a man without his approval and even when the man meets the daughter's father, he would hold him to close scrutiny, seeing whether or not he is a suitable person for her to date or marry. That is until I saw Voddie Baucham's talks on Biblical Manhood and Biblical Womanhood.
One talk of his in particular certainly spoke to this issue (as well as refuting laziness and commenting on the primacy of the family.) of a man who is commited to God's law.
In a Disney program, called the Proud Family, specifically the episode called Rumours, Oscar Proud (the father of Penny Proud, the main character) in one episode, allowed Penny and her friends to have the house to themselves but with one rule which he repeated three times (Trudy Proud his wife mentioned other rules but Oscar recited in between Trudy's rules) the statement "No Boys".
Naturally Penny's friends didn't take this onboard and Penny caved in and they invited the boys round. Penny was left with one boy named Myron who was a a nerd to put it lightly and she was shut in the cupboard with him. Unfortunately Myron suffers from claustriphobia and falls unconcious, with Penny trying to resusitate him, which Oscar assumes he kissed her, a misunderstanding indeed.
That isn't the entire point of the episode but it does bring to light one thing that Voddie Baucham made very clear (even if the episode is not making a point about biblical manhood). Why give your daughter to a man who isn't commited to the law of God?
It is dangerous to give a woman over to a man who is not willing to take care of her and his children, as well as giving her to a man who will disrespect and hurt her.
Laziness also is a problem and an example came to mind today when listening to the talk on Biblical Manhood by Voddie Baucham again today when he mentioned that lazy people are not lazy in making excuses. This made me think of Onslow from the show Keeping Up Apperances, his house is an absolutely messy. Onslow has no job, he sits in front of the TV watching the horse races, he drinks beer and eats bacon sandwiches (Watching TV, drinking beer and eating bacon sandwiches are not sinful themselves just to clarify, laziness is sinful, not the three things I mentioned). It does have an impact on his wife Daisy as the two of them have not sort to keep their house in order. If a man doesn't work hard, that is going to rub off onto the woman too and also the kids if they were to have kids.
Who should godly men give their daughters to? Well it's obvious, a man who knows God and his law, Is hard working and diligent and also commited to the primacy of the family. Even if one isn't married, he still must be respectful and honour his family.
There is a dangerous risk of having a woman seeking out the wrong man (just as bad vice versa) so is it any wonder in the Proud Family, Oscar doesn't want his daughter dating and Is it an wonder that in Meet the Parents that Greg is under close scrutiny from Jack (albeit exagerrated)?
Men even outside a biblical context do have a right to be concerned and it is legitimate not to let anyone go near your daughter if they are not suitable, who may take advantage of your daughter.
A point that I didn't understand years ago, is something I finally know now.